{"id":11700,"date":"2011-11-08T06:40:38","date_gmt":"2011-11-08T05:40:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/davidbosman.fr\/blog\/2011\/11\/08\/un-touriste-au-pays-des-hetero\/"},"modified":"2011-11-08T06:52:18","modified_gmt":"2011-11-08T05:52:18","slug":"un-touriste-au-pays-des-hetero","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.davidbosman.fr\/blog\/2011\/11\/08\/un-touriste-au-pays-des-hetero\/","title":{"rendered":"Un touriste au pays des h\u00e9t\u00e9ros"},"content":{"rendered":"
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We’ve been talking, these past few days, about the courting rituals of the young. A lot of that conversation has focused on our own awkward dalliances. As it happens “our” has a particular meaning.

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“I dunno if this is the appropriate spot, but this post, along with the stuff on scents, reminds me how much of these experiences I missed out on as a gay teen. Never had the opportunity to do the dating thing, or get caught up in trying to impress folks. It just struck me how foreign all of these concepts are to my own history and experience. I’m a tourist in heteroland.”<\/p>\n <\/blockquote>\n \n


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I don’t know if this is even where majeff was going with his comment. But it’s what I took from his observation. All we have our experiences, and when the majority of people we know share the same template it becomes very easy to take that as the truth of the world. The truth is humbling.

\n Ta-Nehisi Coates, quoting a reader: A Tourist in Hetero Land.<\/a><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n

En fran\u00e7ais, dans une traduction aussi embu\u00e9e qu’elle est matinale, on pourrait dire :<\/p>\n\n

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Ces derniers jours, nous avons parl\u00e9 des rituels de s\u00e9duction des jeunes. Une bonne part de cette conversation concernait nos propres badinages maladroits. Il se fait que “nos” a une signification particuli\u00e8re.

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“Je ne sais pas si c’est l’endroit appropri\u00e9, mais cet article, avec les trucs sur les parfums, me rappelle \u00e0 quel point ces exp\u00e9riences m’ont manqu\u00e9es en tant qu’ado homo. je n’ai jamais eu l’occasion d’avoir un de ces RDV, ou de me faire avoir en essayant d’impressionner des gens. Cela me frappe de r\u00e9aliser \u00e0 quel point ces notions sont \u00e9trang\u00e8res \u00e0 ma propre histoire et \u00e0 mon exp\u00e9rience. Je suis un touriste au pays des h\u00e9t\u00e9ros.”<\/p>\n <\/blockquote>\n \n


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\n Je ne sais pas si c’est l\u00e0 que majeff allait avec son commentaire. Mais c’est\n ce que j’ai retenu de sa remarque. Tout nous avons nos exp\u00e9riences, et lorsque la majorit\u00e9 des gens que nous connaissons partagent les m\u00eames, il devient tr\u00e8s facile de consid\u00e9rer cela comme une \u00e9vidence qui va de soi. La v\u00e9rit\u00e9 est une le\u00e7on d’humilit\u00e9.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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